3 Questions That’ll Change Your Life
The Amplified Impact Podcast
December 7th, 2023
Jump into this episode where I share a mind-bending chat that reshaped how I see my role in this crazy world.
I was cruising with a successful window washing gig, feeling pretty good. But a mentor dropped a bomb: “Playing small helps no one.” That got me thinking.
Three questions hit me like a revelation: “Am I playing small?” “What’s playing big look like?” “What needs to change?” I pondered, and it hit me…I could see who I could be, what I could do.
That’s when I realized…current path? Not taking me there. So, I made a change, chased that untapped potential. And you? I dare you to dive into these questions. Find your hidden truths.
My wish? You walk away inspired, ready to chase your boldest self. ‘Cause when we all shine, we light up the world.
TWEETABLE QUOTE:
“Am I playing small? What’s it look like to play big? And what would have to change for that to happen?”
– Anthony Vicino
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Episode Transcript:
Anthony Vicino:
You. So I must have been about 29, 30 years old when I sat down with a mentor who asked me some questions. That kind of changed a lot of the way I thought about my responsibility to the world. And maybe not world in such a grandiose way, but more like to my community, to my family. And up to this point, like just to kind of lay the groundwork a little bit. I had had my first taste of success at this point. We had built, I would say, a fairly successful window washing company. And we were making good money, good cash flow, and it was far more than I had ever made ever in my life.
Anthony Vicino:
In fact, if you were probably to take all the money I had ever made over the previous decade up to that point, it was more than all of it combined. And so I had my first taste of success, financially at least. And also I was having a good sense of feeling like I was contributing and I was doing something better than what I had been before when I was working minimum wage at a climbing gym, which nothing wrong with that. But I always felt like a slave to somebody else. And the path of entrepreneurship gave me a lot of control and a lot of say over my destiny. This is like the first time I’d ever really experienced that kind of autonomy. And it had been going well up to this point. Actually, nothing was going poorly that made me seek out this mentor and just have some conversations.
Anthony Vicino:
But I was starting to feel like this angst, a little bit of this anxiety around what’s next? Is this all there really is? Because I was washing windows. We had built a window washing company. It wasn’t a job I was super passionate about. I didn’t have this deep desire to go wash windows for the rest of my life or anything like that. I didn’t think it was a product that was transforming lives or anything to that degree. It was just a great way to make money and also a great way to provide jobs for my buddies who are also rock climbers. And so that was great. But was that it? That was the question I was asking.
Anthony Vicino:
And when I sat down with my mentor, he said a bunch of things that really stuck with me over the years in that conversation. One of them was, you do the world no favors by playing small. I thought that’s a very interesting concept, and it wouldn’t be for another couple of years until it really started to sink in that I think there is almost this moral imperative that we have to try and do better. And improve the world for maybe not so much for the generations to come, but for the people who are here, at least out of gratitude. For the people who came before, who made this thing livable undoable for us. Seems like we should try and pay it forward. And I don’t believe in necessarily any kind of like existential judgment or reward or anything like that that’s driving these. I think it’s just kind of the people, our ancestors, they did things and they survived.
Anthony Vicino:
A lot of their motivations were just derived towards I don’t want to die. But a fair amount of it too was also just trying to improve the world. And we are the byproduct of that. We get to live in this nice air conditioned, nice heated apartment in major city, just a couple of blocks away from a grocery store and I get to stand on the shoulder of giants when my mentor is asking or at least saying you do the world no favors by playing small. It made me just realize we have this capacity to play bigger and we owe it to ourselves and we owe it to the people around us to play up to that capacity. And so the questions he asked me here’s, the three questions that we walk through, and I encourage you to think through these. I encourage you to take some time this week to journal and write these down, really think on them, go for a long walk and turn these around in your mind and see what you come up with. The first question is simply am I playing small? I think you have to be willing to look at the dragon before you can slay it, right? We’ve talked about this in previous podcasts and you have to be able to acknowledge that you have a problem or that there is something to be fixed before you can go about finding the solution to it.
Anthony Vicino:
So, first question am I playing small? And for me, at that point in my life, I didn’t know the answer to that question. My sense was, I think I’m playing small. But it wasn’t until we got to the second question that I realized, oh my God, I am playing small. The second question is this what’s it look like to play big? And for whatever reason, I struggled initially to answer the first question. But as soon as I started to ask myself what does it look like to play big? The whole story transformed overnight. Because now I could future cast exactly what it would look like to be my best, greatest self. I could imagine it so clearly. I could see the things he could do, what he was capable of, of the contributions he had made.
Anthony Vicino:
I could see that. And then I could recognize the gap between who I was and that man. And I wanted to close that gap. And so then it led to the third question, which is what would have to change? So am I playing small? What’s it look like to play big? And then what would have to change? And just going through this thought exercise was very, very powerful. For me as I started to realize, okay, that vehicle isn’t the thing that’s going to get me from where I am to who I know I could be. The window washing had been great, but it wasn’t the thing that was ultimately going to help me tap into my greatness. And so this became very clear. I needed to walk away from that, and I needed to find the next thing so that I can continue to level up and continue to grow and play big so that I don’t get to the end of the road and feel like I left something on the table, like I didn’t squeeze every ounce of potential out of myself as I could.
Anthony Vicino:
And for whatever reason, those three questions just, like, have stuck with me all these years. There’s a lot of power in just sitting down and reflecting, am I playing small? What would it look like to play big? And what would have to change for that to happen? Go through that exercise, spend some time with it, and see what you might come up with. I think you’ll be surprised. And I hope you walk away from this feeling empowered and encouraged to go and pursue your biggest, best, awesome self. Because, hey, the rising tide lifts all boats. And when we all do good, we all do good. And so I’m rooting for you so that we all can collaboratively make this world just a little bit better place. And that’s going to do it for me.
Anthony Vicino:
Guys and gals, I appreciate you, as always, for being here. I’ll catch you in the next episode. Bye.
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