If You’re in Your 20s and Want to Get Ahead…Do This

What is up, all you beautiful people? Welcome back to the podcast. We are still in Italy. Look at that beautiful view. Is that not gorgeous or what? We are in largo de garda. We were in Rome last week. We’ll be in Forenza next week. And I just want to take you on a beautiful little morning country walk with me right next to the vineyard. Gorgeous.

If you’re in your twenties, if you’re a young buck, a young lass, and you’re looking at. You’re watching videos like this from people who are further along the journey than you, kudos. Good for you, first of all, because, like, you are so much ahead of the game than I was at your age. I wasn’t watching this stuff. I wasn’t reading books. I wasn’t trying to move and grow towards my greatness. I wasn’t thinking about those things. I was just out there trying to live life on my terms and have fun.

But if you’re watching this, if you’re younger, and even if you’re not younger, if you’re a little bit older, but you’re still striving towards your greatness and you’re not quite there yet, and you can feel it, you’re like, I’m moving in the right direction. I’m on the path, but I haven’t hit my goals yet. Oh, I just got a text message from Jamie through my headphones. It startled the crap out of me because it came in really loudly. I got these new ray ban metas, by the way. They are the coolest toy I’ve ever purchased. I’ll do another podcast on that in just a second, so stay tuned for that. But just wanted to, in case you were watching, you’re like, why did Anthony just jump? Like, somebody jumped out of a tree at him? Like, scared the crap out of me.

Anyhow, so if you’re not where you want to be in life, or you’re a young buck and you’re. You’re coming up and you’re like, how do I get ahead in this game? Here’s just three simple things I want you to consider. I would propose to you that might help you accelerate your progress towards your goal. Number one, stop dating. Stop dating. When you’re young, you’re full of hormones. Seems like the most important thing in the world to go and find your soulmate. Let me just tell you this, is that I didn’t find my partner, Jamie.

We’ve been together for six, seven years now. So I was like, 33 years old before that. I was dating. I thought I’d find my soulmate, fiance. All that stuff. She broke my heart. You know, all that stuff, right? I lived that. I’ve been there.
And in hindsight, I think I don’t have much to show for that time and energy, except for a lot of money, a lot of time, a lot of energy wasted. So that’s not to say that there’s no benefit in dating when you’re young, but I. What I would encourage you to consider is that you’re probably not going to find your soulmate when you’re young. And the reason for that is because you’re still in a process of exploration and growth and trying to determine who you are and who you’re going to be in the world. And so you’re not even worthy yet of finding your soulmate. Like, if you found your soulmate, you’re not yet that person that they would be attracted to. So rule number one is to attract your soulmate is to become somebody attractive to soul mate. Should spend this time working on yourself and less time worrying about finding a partner, about spending your life alone.
I promise you, when the time is right, when the. When the. When the student is ready, the teacher appears, and the same in relationships, when you are ready, when you are worthy of a great partner, your great partner will appear. Number two is stop drinking alcohol. This is a really controversial topic these days, and I don’t understand quite why that is. But people defend drinking alcohol with their friends on social occasions so vehemently, as though it was a basic human rights, in that you are a weirdo, a boring person. If you look at alcohol consumption and look at it objectively, which is to say alcohol is a poisonous, it’s a toxin. It’s not doing your body any benefits, both in the short term moment or in the long term.
But not only that, it’s like bad on your wallet. It’s a bad use of your time. Not only does it cost you the night that you’re drinking, it also costs you the next day as you’re recovering. And you can do that a whole lot faster when you’re young. I get it. And I also understand fully that you’re probably not going to give up these things all at once because there’s a lot of social pressure for you to still go be part of your tribe and do the drinking and all that stuff. I totally get it. I’m just telling you, the sooner you can come to this conclusion on your own and start eliminating some of these things so you can focus on yourself and focus on your growth the faster that you’re going to do that, and I have.
I cut out drinking a couple years ago, and honestly, like, I just don’t. At this point, having drank a whole lot in my life, I just don’t see the rationale behind it anymore. And the more I’m away from alcohol and the more I hear people try to defend it, the more I hear things that make me go, hmm, sounds like a crutch, even if that’s. Hey, I’m just. I drink once a week with my friends, and it helps me get a more full experience, and it helps me get more uninhibited and gets. Helps me get a better experience with my bros. Like, all that stuff. All I hear is, hmm, sounds like a crutch.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could just have those feelings all the time? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could just work on yourself and be able to generate that at the snap of a finger? Because you surely could, right? Like, your biology, psychology are so directly linked. If you could just connect those two, you’d be fine. You could get that to that place. And so that’s what I wonder, is, are we using alcohol as a crutch to become our best version of ourself rather than just trying to go and become the best version of ourselves? All right, number three, third thing I would recommend, if you’re a young buck and trying to get ahead, is go get a roommate. Go get some roommates if you want to get, like, that, social exposure. And granted, they’re probably going to be drinking, but I would try and find people who are on a similar path as you, that have similar values, that want to get ahead, and that’s hard to find. I grant. I grant you that is really hard to find.

But it is one of the reasons I think that college can be advantageous is that, in a way, it’s a self selected group of people who are somewhat serious about what they’re doing, not all the time. And there’s a whole lot of people who are just wasting time and energy in college. And so that’s not a good blanket statement. But generally, if you’re trying to get around a social group of people who are interested in getting ahead in life, like, that’s not a terrible way to do so. So those are my three pieces of advice. Let me one last thing on the roommate thing. You’re going to save so much more money, and in the beginning, you need all the money. You can get all the money to be able to pour back into yourself into your personal growth and your development.

That’s why we’re trying to cut out the alcohol. That’s why we’re not dating. That’s why we’re getting a roommate. We’re trying to cut our expenses as much as possible so we can afford to pour as much into us as humanly possible. So that’s going to do it for me. See you guys in the next episode. Until then, ciao, Bella.